Why I’m not wearing a white dress…

I know there are a lot of women who plan their wedding day from the time they are kids, but I was never one of those women. I do, however, have my vision of the “perfect wedding day”; however, my vision does not include a white gown. For some people, that is an absolutely disturbing idea. For me, I would probably lose my lunch if I was forced for even one day to wear a white dress. They say that wearing a white dress is a symbol of purity and happiness–but who are we fooling? Brides in 2012 will most likely not be virgins until their wedding nights. Let’s be real! 
Mary Stuart, Queen of Scots in the late 1550’s
The white wedding dress tradition of the Western world actually came from a fashion trend set by Mary, Queen of Scots in France in 1558. It was seen as a bad choice because back then, white was a color of mourning in that area. She was a 15 year old bride marrying 14-year-old François,Dauphin of France.

Queen Victoria in her wedding dress by Winterhalter, 1842

Then in 1840, Queen Victoria sealed the deal by wearing a white dress, and since then–all western brides are told that they MUST wear white. Wearing a white dress was a status symbol–because it meant you had the means to afford to buy a completely white dress just for your wedding. Some brides would dye their wedding dresses so they could wear them again. Before these queens wore white, people just wore the best dress they had.

When look I at white dresses, I find myself in a sea of dresses that virtually all look the same. There are over 200 shades of “bridal white”, as per David Tutera. After I see one white dress after another, I just keep thinking: I would be mortified if I had to wear any of these dresses. I decided that I wanted a blue wedding dress. A peacock one, in fact. I thought even the champagnes and the pale roses that are en vogue weren’t bold enough for me. It’s funny, because blue is not even my favorite color…but it’s grown on me.

The color blue, as it pertains to weddings, symbolizes fidelity. I can dig that. So, I figured, what better color to wear on my wedding day? I don’t mind being the poster-child for fidelity, as it is one of the things I value the most in a relationship.

Here’s the thing: You don’t have to fit into anyone’s mold of what a bride should be. Wear what you want to wear. It’s okay to break the rules, because who’s wedding day is it? YOURS!! So do what you like. There were a few people who were pretty shocked I am wearing a blue wedding dress…but when I pull out the picture of my dress, they always change their tune. There’s usually a gasp, followed by, “Wow. That’s gorgeous.”

So what’s my wedding dress going to look like? I guess you’ll have to keep reading…


I have a very warped sense of humor. If you are offended easily, don’t follow this blog. It’s meant for people who are looking for an escape from the SERIOUSNESS of wedding planning. I’m no relationship or wedding expert. I’m just a girl who is in love and wants to celebrate. Please don’t bother telling me how inappropriate it is say that David Bowie is God…because I kinda believe…David Bowie may in fact be God.