The Recycled Wedding: It’s nothing new…

The Recycled Wedding: It’s Nothing New… 
~Tips for Conscious Peacock Brides~

People have been recycling things since the beginning of time; however, since the industrial revolution, we’ve seen the growth of consumerism. That then produces waste. When things become common, we forget how much energy was put into creating them. We cast things into the trash that are 100% reusable  The fact that you want to hug Mother Earth while getting hitched is nothing new. And you shouldn’t feel bad about wanting to reuse items that were trash-bound. You can buy stuff new and use old things as well. Either way, being a conscious bride is a good thing. Don’t be ashamed of it! 

I’m not a hipster. I’m not a hippie. I don’t really know what you’d label me these days…but there is one thing I know for sure: I am very concerned about is the health of the planet. Weddings are wonderful parties…but those parties last one day. How much of our hard-earned money is going to the trash, then the landfill, then into our waters after our wedding day? You can have so much more if you reuse things that you can find for free. Abundance is hidden sometimes. 
The “Mason Jar” Phenomenon in weddings has taken over Pintrest, Etsy, and all corners of the wedding internets. The most appealing part of jars is that they are made of glass. Glass is strong and durable, while being fragile and simple–Just like a relationship. Nothing is more dynamic than watching light hit glass. That is the ambiance of romance…that’s the stuff that dreams and babies are made of; but you know what’s not so sexy? Garbage patches in the ocean. 

I decided that I want to use a lot of recycled materials in my wedding. Not only are they free, but they are still usable. I’ve been saving glass jars for over a year. I work in a place where we “demo” food items. Most of these jars are cast into the trash. No one recycles them because they don’t get a return value like cans and bottles for beverages. So I decided to adopt over 100 jars of various sizes. I didn’t turn a jar away! 




Here is a jar that I first frosted with glass frosting and then applied muti-colored rhinestones by hand. I took some pictures before they are finished so you can see what it looks like in-progress. 

Here are some ombre drip-painted mason jars. Look how beautifully the light blue ombre plays off of the peacock feather!! 


We are going to be doing all different types of jars in the blue ombre color scheme and the peacock color scheme. They will match because they will all be different. So far, when I put everything together, I am so happy that it is going so well!! 

The main thing you’ll have to get over about using recycled materials is: Not everything is going to match!! However, if everything is a little mismatched, then a new pattern is created. There is beauty in imperfection!! We need to embrace that. I plan on keeping or selling the jars I have created. Now things that we once landfill-bound will now grace the shelves of homes as treasured lanterns. These might be donated to another bride who cannot afford to make this many lanterns for herself. These things are beautiful and have purpose now. 

Be conscious…

Why you shouldn’t judge another bride’s budget…

“People shouldn’t spend so much money on their wedding day. 
An intimate backyard gathering is all you need.” 

I’m so ridiculously tired of reading wedding blogs and listening to brides (engaged and married) that judge other people for the amount of money they plan to spend on their weddings. In this day and time, I understand the need for people to be frugal and financially responsible. With that taken into consideration, there is nothing wrong with having a medium or large sized wedding if you can afford it–especially if “affording it” means that you can pay cash for everything. I set a budget, and I have no choice but to stick to it. Whatever I cannot afford, I cannot have. But that doesn’t mean I have to have a small wedding if I don’t want one. It also doesn’t mean I have to have a wedding in someone’s backyard or in a park. Those are all great ideas, but you don’t HAVE to do that just because you are on a small budget! There are some really nice venues out there that aren’t totally outrageous! You don’t HAVE to do anything you don’t want to do.

Here’s the truth of the matter: I’m a pretty simple girl, with a pretty simple life. I don’t own a car and I don’t have children. I don’t buy expensive designer things and I don’t spend my money partying all the time. We do, however, value our money. Our income is modest. We’re not balling out of control; however, when people say, “You could buy a car with that money”–I want to say, “With that car you bought, you could have bought a wedding!!…I could buy a car NOW!! And I don’t want one!”. The average cost to own and operate a car is about $892 per month. I don’t have those kind of expenses. People think it’s outrageous that I would save $800 a month for a year, but that doesn’t seem that bad to me, personally. I think it would be outrageous to spend $900 a month just on transportation. People will say, “That could be a down payment for a house”…well, at this point, I don’t know if I even want to stay in California to own a home here. And if I could save up $10,000 in a year for my wedding, I could easily save up the same amount next year for a house. The point is, you don’t know what someone’s financial position is. For some people, 30k is not that much. Others will struggle to pull together $1000 for their wedding days. It doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you TRULY can afford the amount of money you are telling people you’ll pay them!

I totally respect people’s desire to have a small wedding with only 20 people; however, just my immediate family plus my fiance’s immediate family, plus the two of us is already 15 people. I have a lot of friends and family that I want to share my special day with. I don’t have anything against small weddings–AT ALL. Very small, quaint, beautiful. I get it. I also get, that’s not for everyone. I personally feel like my wedding is one of the biggest celebrations I will ever throw in my life. This does not mean we need personalized toilet paper in the bathrooms (guests love nothing more than to wipe their asses with your monogram the day of your wedding). But it does mean that I’m going to step my game up for one day. This is the celebration of the love we share!! And that is a reason to celebrate!!

My girlfriend recently got married in a very beautiful old chapel in Arizona. 

She had a simple ceremony with a few friends. And the pictures looked absolutely gorgeous! She had the cutest floral print dress on, and her husband had a gorgeous purple tie on. It was so cute. Just as I shouldn’t knock her small intimate wedding, people shouldn’t judge someone’s desire to have a wedding that is bigger. This venue worked for her. It was exactly what she wanted…and with her being the bride, she should get what she wanted. 

Instead of telling people what size wedding they should have, and how much is “reasonable to spend” I would encourage people to be creative and find ways to get as close to their dream as they can without busting the budget. I can see where it’s unrealistic to have a wedding for 300 people on a $3,000 budget; however, you can totally have a beautiful wedding for less than a 1/3 of what the average wedding costs. A $10-12k wedding is totally do-able.

1. Be realistic. How much money can you spend without having to take out a loan, or owe money at the end. 

That’s going to determine what kind of money you can spend. Then start saving, aggressively. That means if you have that wedding with 100 people on a $10k budget, you may have to say no to things like “bouquet preservation”. (I don’t really see the point of freeze drying flowers for $400, but whatever…)

2. Lengthen your engagement, if possible.

 We agreed on a long engagement, and mainly because we wanted to make sure we could afford the wedding. We figured we could save X amount of dollars each month, and then we counted the months we would need to reach our goals, and then added two more months, so we have cash free and available for miscellaneous expenses that we might encounter closer to the wedding. We could go get married at the Justice of the Peace tomorrow; however, we know if we want to have an actual wedding, we needed to save money in advance. Some couples must marry quickly for one reason or another. Some couples just can’t wait, and will have a shorter engagement; however, lengthening your engagement could really aid your wedding plan, because you can do things really far in advance, which makes you less stressed out because you can give each task your all. I noticed my bridesmaids are more than willing to do DIY things while we’re having fun without pressure, rather than running a sweat shop a week before the wedding. 

3. Instead of having hot appetizers with servers for the cocktail hour, opt for cold, self-serve snacks. I work at a place that sells amazing cheeses. So I decided to have fruit, cheese, and other appetizers that are classy, filling, but not going to cost $4 per person per appetizer. It still looks beautiful, and it gives a healthy option for snacking before dinner is served. 

4. Buy things as you go. I made my own centerpieces and cake stands. I am spending a large percent of my decoration budget on LED lighting. I give myself a “wedding allowance, and I buy things as I go. Instead of buying every single thing I need to make my 15 centerpieces, I buy what I can afford at the time; once one project is over, I start the next. I think this is easier, because it’s easier for me to take $50 a week and spend it on wedding supplies than to take $400 at one time and buy everything I need. This doesn’t really in itself save you money, but it does allow for you to not stress out about doing the same project 15 times until you burn out. I’m extremely crafty, so the level of DIY I’m taking on may not work for everyone…but if you are creative, you can really get a lot more for your money.

5. Choose a venue that includes things like lighting, a sound system, chairs or tables. 

Factor how much money you save on finding a venue that offers more than just a blank room. We are having our wedding at the Enchanted Manor in Valley Village. 


6. It’s not all about the bling. Some people would NEVER do this, but I’m not splurging on expensive wedding rings. The only jewelry I wear is body jewelry. I have enough bling stuck in my face already. 

My dermal

We love these titanium rings we found on Etsy. They are inexpensive, and simple. For me, having a simple ring was all I wanted. No diamonds, no frills. I understand, some people really value jewelry and they will want to spend more of their money on jewelry; however, if you could live without a super expensive ring, you could save a lot of money! This set costs less than $50!

 7. Don’t skip the flowers totally, but try to use them strategically throughout your wedding decor. 


I absolutely love flowers, but let’s face it. Flowers are expensive. I wouldn’t suggest you go 100% flowerless, but you can cut down on the amount of flowers you buy. You can use flowers like Hydrangeas that take up a lot of space, but don’t cost so much. You could  have jars of baby’s breath here and there. Baby’s breath is not only very beautiful, it’s super cheap. Another thing you can consider is having your bridesmaids carry something in place of floral bouquets, like fans, or baskets filled with silk rose petals that they can drop as they go down the aisle. You can find baskets on clearance after Easter time. If you’ve extended your engagement, you can totally save on after-holiday sales. That basket you wanted once cost $20 around Mother’s Day…now it’s on clearance for $2. Save the expensive flowers for your bouquet. My centerpieces are actually made with mason jars and firefly lights. I spent about $17 creating each one. I don’t even know how much 15 floral centerpieces would be, but the best thing is, I can create my centerpieces as I go, and they will not wilt or die while I’m waiting for the wedding. I showed one of the groomsmen my centerpieces, and he couldn’t believe how well they turned out. He said, “You’ve outdone yourself”. That was a good feeling. 


Well, this whole rant has to do with people telling other people what to do. I’m sick of it. I’m sick of the whole “go-to-the-courthouse-it’ll-save-you-money” mentality being pushed onto people and making people feel guilty for wanting to have a wedding for more that 10 people. It’s your day! If you want it small, great. If you want a big party, great! But don’t judge a bride’s budget. Not everyone feels the way you do, and some people…well, they’re just better at stretching a buck than other people. 

I’ve got to get back to making my cake stand…peas and butter, little Peacocks… 

DISCLAIMER:

I have a very warped sense of humor. If you are offended easily, don’t follow this blog. It’s meant for people who are looking for an escape from the SERIOUSNESS of wedding planning. I’m no relationship or wedding expert. I’m just a girl who is in love and wants to celebrate. Please don’t bother telling me how inappropriate it is say that David Bowie is God…because I kinda believe…David Bowie may in fact be God.  

Who is the Peacock Bride?

Me, as a peacock fairy at The Electric Daisy Carnival–Make Up and Costume all by ME 😀

My name is Sydney. I’m 31 years old. I am originally from the Midwest, but I’ve been living in Los Angeles, CA since 2003. I am a fun-loving, super silly, foul mouthed, tattooed bride. And I love peacocks! 
 We met. We fell in Love. Now we want to torture each other for the rest of our lives.
 Be part of the fun! 

I was single for a super long time. After many bad relationships, I almost gave up on actually finding the right guy. That was until I met Anthony.
Anthony is a bald musician with a taste for good music and outspoken wanton women. His answer for why he wears a fedora everyday, “I don’t want to get head cancer”. 
Good baby… I don’t want you to get head cancer either.. 

In Las Vegas — indulging in a little DEBAUCHERY
Awww…ANNFEENNNY, look how pretty your beautiful fiancee is!
To make a long story short,we met a few years ago at work stocking nuts in the nut aisle at the grocery store we both worked at. Funny…two nuts, working the nuts. Hahaha! Well, we kept in touch for years as friends. Took this man 2 YEARS to even ask me out on a date, even though I knew he liked me a lot. He kept sending messages through mutual friends that he liked me. After our first marathon 5-hour conversation on the phone, I knew I wanted him to be my guy. We realized we both had an artistic side and a strangely fascinating love of David Bowie. When he came over with “The Best of Bowie” CD on our first date, I decided I would marry him one day. Plan of attack: get him the sack, then work from there. TRUE STORY.

Bowie is God
 We LOVE David Bowie. And when I say love, I really mean we both have a mild obsession with this stud, so we decided to have a Labyrinth inspired wedding. Bowie is one of the things that made us realize we were meant for each other. I thought it would be to kitschy to recreate the movie, so I used the movie to inspire my dress, theme, and color scheme. 
Of course, the spirit of Bowie will be interjected through the entire wedding. My bridal party will be marching down the aisle to “Be My Wife”–by the Bowie man. Don’t like it–who cares! 
                                                     
So…that’s what this blog is all about. Worshiping Bowie and getting our asses down the aisle!!

❤ Bowie for Life

DISCLAIMER:

I have a very warped sense of humor. If you are offended easily, don’t follow this blog. It’s meant for people who are looking for an escape from the SERIOUSNESS of wedding planning. I’m no relationship or wedding expert. I’m just a girl who is in love and wants to celebrate. Please don’t bother telling me how inappropriate it is say that David Bowie is God…because I kinda believe…David Bowie may in fact be God.  

Why I’m not wearing a white dress…

I know there are a lot of women who plan their wedding day from the time they are kids, but I was never one of those women. I do, however, have my vision of the “perfect wedding day”; however, my vision does not include a white gown. For some people, that is an absolutely disturbing idea. For me, I would probably lose my lunch if I was forced for even one day to wear a white dress. They say that wearing a white dress is a symbol of purity and happiness–but who are we fooling? Brides in 2012 will most likely not be virgins until their wedding nights. Let’s be real! 
Mary Stuart, Queen of Scots in the late 1550’s
The white wedding dress tradition of the Western world actually came from a fashion trend set by Mary, Queen of Scots in France in 1558. It was seen as a bad choice because back then, white was a color of mourning in that area. She was a 15 year old bride marrying 14-year-old François,Dauphin of France.

Queen Victoria in her wedding dress by Winterhalter, 1842

Then in 1840, Queen Victoria sealed the deal by wearing a white dress, and since then–all western brides are told that they MUST wear white. Wearing a white dress was a status symbol–because it meant you had the means to afford to buy a completely white dress just for your wedding. Some brides would dye their wedding dresses so they could wear them again. Before these queens wore white, people just wore the best dress they had.

When look I at white dresses, I find myself in a sea of dresses that virtually all look the same. There are over 200 shades of “bridal white”, as per David Tutera. After I see one white dress after another, I just keep thinking: I would be mortified if I had to wear any of these dresses. I decided that I wanted a blue wedding dress. A peacock one, in fact. I thought even the champagnes and the pale roses that are en vogue weren’t bold enough for me. It’s funny, because blue is not even my favorite color…but it’s grown on me.

The color blue, as it pertains to weddings, symbolizes fidelity. I can dig that. So, I figured, what better color to wear on my wedding day? I don’t mind being the poster-child for fidelity, as it is one of the things I value the most in a relationship.

Here’s the thing: You don’t have to fit into anyone’s mold of what a bride should be. Wear what you want to wear. It’s okay to break the rules, because who’s wedding day is it? YOURS!! So do what you like. There were a few people who were pretty shocked I am wearing a blue wedding dress…but when I pull out the picture of my dress, they always change their tune. There’s usually a gasp, followed by, “Wow. That’s gorgeous.”

So what’s my wedding dress going to look like? I guess you’ll have to keep reading…

DISCLAIMER:

I have a very warped sense of humor. If you are offended easily, don’t follow this blog. It’s meant for people who are looking for an escape from the SERIOUSNESS of wedding planning. I’m no relationship or wedding expert. I’m just a girl who is in love and wants to celebrate. Please don’t bother telling me how inappropriate it is say that David Bowie is God…because I kinda believe…David Bowie may in fact be God.